The Best Way to Prepare For Marriage

There is so much "advice" out there, mainly geered toward woman about why they don't have a man in their life.  I don't know if you've noticed it but that whole subject is very one-sided. I understand that women need to learn and understand that we really do have the goods, and the power and not knowing it has caused so many of us to be used and abused. But overall this whole subject has been bothering me for the longest and I haven't been able to put my finger on what it is that bothers me so much about it.  Then it hit me...

First of all there is way too much talk about how to find somebody or be found by somebody or why you don't have anybody.  The focus should NEVER be on getting or finding someone. That has never been God's focus, so why have we let it become ours?

Stop buying up all these books and listening to all these people telling you why you aren't good enough. Some of the most ignorant, dysfunctional people on the planet are married!  So evidently there is more to preparing for marriage than just acting like you have some sense....at first.

One of the most valuable lessons I've learned as a single woman is something that the Lord spoke directly to me, and it is this....THE BEST WAY TO PREPARE FOR MARRIAGE IS TO LEARN HOW TO BE SINGLE.

You may read this and think I'm talking about the same thing that everybody else is talking about, "just do you", "learn to love yourself", etc.  Nah.  We've heard it all before and if that was all there was too it, more of us would be married.  But we're not.  So...I"m gonna spend a little time blogging and sharing things that God has talked to me about for these past 12 years that have really helped me and saved my life.  they have literally raised my self-esteem and pulled me up out of a state of mind that was simply put, desperate.  Stay tuned.